Shit we don't say about other types of crime

Trigger warnings: rape, murder, theft.

You left your door unlocked that night.  Are you sure you didn't secretly want to get robbed?

The victim never explicitly told the defendant, "No, I do not want you to kill me right now."

Your storefront does not have bulletproof glass protecting the cashier and cash register.  Doesn't that just invite gunmen to come in and commit armed robbery?

A witness said that he overheard you joking about what you would do if someone ever tried to rob you.  Doesn't that mean you wanted to get robbed?

Star Athlete and Community Servicer Accused of Murder, But Victim Was Kinda Suicidal Anyway

He was depressed and chose not to be on anti-depressants.  He must have secretly wanted to be killed or he'd have lived his life in a way that said, "I don't want to die!"

The victim was in to such dangerous activities as skydiving and bungee jumping.  Doesn't that exude the type of personality that says, "Please kill me because I like it"?

If you didn't want to get robbed, you shouldn't have left your blinds open at night revealing all of your expensive technology right there in the living room for everyone to see.

You should have known that walking down a dark street alone at night would lead to you getting mugged.

If you didn't want your child to get kidnapped, why did you let him walk home alone from school?  Why didn't you pick him up instead?  Everyone knows that a kid walking three and a half blocks alone in broad daylight is just asking to get kidnapped.

If you're so anti-murder, why do you watch shows like Dexter and CSI?

He was living in sin with his girlfriend anyway, so he deserved to be killed. 

If you didn't want your identity stolen, why would you use a credit card and not cash?

The robber got in through your cracked window.  You should never leave a window open in your apartment because that's just asking for someone to come in and steal your stuff.
The defendant can clearly be seen in this security footage killing that man.  There is no question that he is guilty.  But this is his first offense ever, so we'll let him off easy because so far he's been a pretty good person in life.

My daughter has lived for 24 years on this planet as a good, law-abiding citizen.  It only took her thirty seconds of drunk driving to run over that child.  You can't condemn her for a crime that took up so little of her life!

We don't fucking look at murder, theft, or kidnapping victims as if they wanted it, as if their lifestyle opened them up to getting killed or robbed.  So why the fuck do we look at rape victims as though they had it coming?  What is it about getting sexually assaulted that leads people to believe that it's the victim's fault?  Doesn't anybody fucking realize that rape is just as much about violence as murder is?  That rape is about power, control, force, anger, hate, and not about getting laid?

If I hit you in the face with a frying pan while we're both in the kitchen, we don't call it cooking.  We call it violence.  Yet if a rapist forces themselves upon a victim, conscious or not, sober or not, we say, "oh, are we all sure that the victim didn't actually want it? are we all sure that the victim doesn't just regret sleeping with that person? are we all sure that the victim just doesn't remember saying yes?"  Even though an intoxicated person is legally unable to sign a contract in most states (or all states? I'm no lawyer).  Because an intoxicated person's consent is meaningless.  But apparently a drunk person not saying "no, please don't rape me" is the same thing as a sober person saying "yes, please have sex with me."

Apparently sexual felonies aren't that big of a deal.  Apparently rape is actually pretty okay.  Apparently rape is some magical crime that garners sympathy for the criminal instead of for the victim.  Apparently rape is just sex that the victim regrets.  Apparently rape is not a crime that you need to serve time for.  Apparently rape is totally expected if you're a drunk college kid.  Apparently there's nothing anyone can really do from stopping themselves from raping someone.  Apparently rape just happens when you're drunk.  Apparently rape isn't even rape if the victim is unconscious, intoxicated, or both.  Apparently rape isn't really rape if the rapist insists that s/he had consent.